My dislikes II

Today, I had two encounters which will be added into my aversion list. My first blogging about it was here.

One of the worst thing one can experience in life would definitely have to be stucked in traffic. I must salute those who never think traffic jam as an absurd way of wasting time and how they can endure every minute and every second of it. In Sydney, what makes it worse is the number of traffic lights one has to pass before reaching a destination. When I was still residing in my previous domicile, I literally counted how many sets of traffic lights I pass on the way to work. It was 29!!! It was a freaking 29 sets of lights! No wonder it took me almost an hour for a 15km distance in a bad traffic. Nowadays, I take the freeway which is so much better but still 17 sets of traffic lights. =) So I do appreciate it if people actually geared up to go when the lights turn green. Unfortunately, there are a bunch of people who think they have ample time in the world to do their 'whatever' in the car while waiting for the lights to turn green. So, when the lights says go, they are not vigilant and it has to take a nasty honk or several just to alert them. Inevitably, this will only allow several cars to go and the next few cars in line will have to wait for another couple of minutes. This is one scenario that will cause me to blow!! (Lord, I ask for more patience in me, please.)

Secondly, we had dinner out just today and we were seated next to a group of people which I assume was a couple with 2 kids (a baby and a small kid) and their 3 single friends (from their conversation). Not just on one occasion, but several, the mother drew much attention when she raised her voice at her little boy (probably 2-3 years old). Of course, people tried to be polite and dared not stare, but we were right beside them. Gosh, it was so annoying! Although seemingly, she was trying to discipline her son, but I don't think that sort of treatment is suitable in public. She repeatedly had to raise her voice to tell her son off, "this cannot, that cannot, no this, no that... etc". I really have an issue with mother's trying to proove in public that she's a stern mum!! Especially the tone that this lady used.. is so similar to many of the 'well-educated mothers' I've seen around, as opposed to the not-so-educated ones, of which the latter will simply shout at their kids, slap them around (understandably, this is prohibited in Australia) and ask them to shut up and sit quietly! So, this lady actually tried to show her smart-arse (in hokkien we call it, ke gau) motherly demeanour in public and I absolutely loathe it! Can't they do it at home??? I have seen many children and friends with that kind of mother, and eventually they turn out to either be resentful and/or timid and/or another smart-arse product!! (Lord, please help me to be more accepting and forgiving and not judgmental.)

I know, I am a very judgmental person, no one person in this world can be unison in character and attitude. I just have to learn to accept them as they are. Oh well, I sound very petty and I'm not someone into the deep stuffs, well I do but in seclusion. So, as much as those are meaningful and worthy to be pondered upon, one just need to succumb to the fact that life in itself is hard. I have long accepted that, which is why I don't dwell in the deep stuffs because it just complicates things even more. I want to live life in contentment and in thanksgiving because I know, there's pure joy by just knowing the Lord!!

Ok, I digressed. One minute, I am judgmental and now I'm talking about joy! Hmm... told you I have identity crisis. Oh wait, I was actually talking about pettiness and the deeper stuffs!

Alrighty, enough with that. Before I end, I want to show my mum the dinner we cooked yesterday. We had some thai sweet chili chicken with some salad. Big Elf likes his garden salad with balsamic vinegar whereas I wanted to have a different salad ie silverbeet (mum, that's the name of the vegetable I told you about) with mashed sweet potatoes. No MSG, no salt for the salad. Quick, easy and healthy!

Big Elf's dinner

My dinner

My dislikes!

I'm not sure if I've mentioned before that I am a very judgmental person, especially on people. I know who I like and who I don't like. Meaning to say, I am very selective of whom I would like to befriend with and whom I just want to keep at arm's length. However, it's bizarre that in so many other things, I cannot make up my mind. I can be quite fickle minded too.

Since I've discovered that I am one without any stand of my own, ie I sway to any direction and every direction possible through influences from family and friends, I began to loath this attitude of mine. I really abhor fickle-mindedness. From then onwards, I try to own up to what I stand for and will strive to make my opinions count. As a result, I have mature much. I feel that I have more confidence. This is an admirable quality and I do hope it will be a good influence to others.

This time, I do have a point of blogging. I would like to share my dislikes. I cannot tolerate women who are fickle-minded, far worse, if it's a man. For example, if you go to a restaurant, you are probably expected to make up your mind in the next minute once you are handed the menu. I totally identify with you being unable to decide what to eat in that short period of time, coupled with the urging gesture from the waiter/waitress. But it does get a little exasperating if you still cannot make up your mind in the next 10 minutes or after everyone else have placed their orders.

What I cannot understand is, say for example, a list of cocktails which you have never even heard of, much less try it. I cannot understand the dilly-dallying and the fuss about the decision making. If you don't know any of it, just 'ini mini mani mo' on one. You will only know if you like it or not after you've tried something new. This is one that can really test my patience!

Next, I really have a problem with smart-arse (an informal way of referring to someone trying to be smart when in fact they are quite empty in the head). I like the way my hubby puts it in hokkien dialect, "U he, bo lang ti chu" (translation: Lights are on, but no one is at home).

They say something, and when one counters it, they come up with something so ludicrious that will make you laugh your pants off or sometimes, it will leave you speechless, just to proove they are smarter or perhaps to proove they are not stupid! This really gets to me, deep in my vein. I can feel my blood boiling if I were to deal with people like that. Seeing my anger blow at these situations, hubby then suggested that I go for anger management class. Haha.. what a joke!

Oh well, what to do.. the world is full of them. I will add on to my dislike list as I encounter them in the future!